The truth behind momrage
How funny is that we have now a term for MOMRAGE, also one for MOMGUILT… but we never say dadrage or dadguilt. Would they handle their emotions better? Dads don’t get angry or they don’t feel guilt?
Nope. That is not the case.
But somehow society is so much more fixated on how moms SHOULD or SHOULDN’T behave… that we got all that attention which even create these terms. “Thanks”
Dads feel the guilt when they can’t come home “on time” from the office, dads feel rage and frustration when their kids throw tantrums. They are humans, they were brought up with same parenting style just like us… so yes they feel similar feelings too, but (!) the expectations are different.
You know the double standards I’m talking about.
Dads are super dads and WOW when they take their kids to the playground - You, you are just doing your job
Dads are praised for “helping out” - You, you are expected to do it all 24\7
If a dad is working we don’t say working dad, but we say working mom so you know you need to balance perfectly it all
Dad taking the kids to burger’s it’s considered FUN, - You taking the kids would be considered lazy, how dare you to feed your kids that garbage
Dads having boys’ night out considered normal part of their social life - You having girls’ night out considered selfish and out of place
… and the list goes on
NO, it’s NOT against dads!
But seeing clearly the facts, the double standards, the expectations - can help you solve your own anger and frustration.
Of course you have already those seeds of frustration when you are told:
You are JUST staying at home
You are selfish for prioritising your career
You should not leave your child
You should not put them into daycare
You should gentle parent
You should never yell
…. and the list goes on
You trying to do your best and then facing all the judgements and expectations everywhere… it is FRUSTRATING.
So let’s reveal the truth.
What is momrage? And how to handle it?
Momrage is simply a feeling, anger. And it got this special term because moms don’t have the needed support and needed selftime so when all the challenging situations arise:
tantrums
talk backs
getting to appointments on time
getting ready to school
…
Moms SHOULD just patiently handle them all. And when they don’t… they are labeled as ANGRY-MOM, or judged for having “anger-issues”
Nope.
The truth behind momrage is that you’re worn out, you don’t have enough support and/or selftime and/or your basic needs are not met.
How to handle it?
Well, you can absolutely learn emotional management and how not to react, how not to yell, I also teach these to my clients. But.
First.
You need to create a life for yourself where these frustration seeds can be handled, where you’re capable of staying calm because your nervous system isn’t fried and in flight or fight mode.
You need to take care of your basic needs, sleep, eat and don’t run down the burn-out hill.
You need to create time for yourself and recharge. You also need to learn how to handle all those expectations.
I can help you. Book your free consultation HERE.
You can also grab my new freebie HERE about “How to stay calm during tantrums” so you have a tool on hand not just the F expectations…
Just know you are NOT an angry mama. You’re most probably just running on empty.
Please have comapassion towards yourself.