The reason behind mom-fatigue
The elephant in the room. The one we don’t talk about enough.
The MENTAL LOAD of motherhood.
Sleep deprivation is for sure one of the most challenging part (for me personally the worst) of motherhood, but eventually all kids will sleep through the night and those crazy broken nights will happen only occasionally. So why are moms then always tired?
Why do we feel exhausted?
There are many reasons actually, it can be also because you don’t pay enough attention to where your energy goes - read my blogpost about it HERE. Or you don’t focus on how to create your energy, you can more about that HERE.
But today I want to talk about the MENTAL LOAD of motherhood. All the shit that occupies our brain and all the invisible labor we do as mothers.
You don’t only face the expectation to be a good mom which comes with an incredibly long list of “how” (sometimes conflicting), like:
be with your kids 24/7
cook/bake organic food
entertain them without screen time
develop them with age appropriate activities
make sure they spend enough time outdoors
…. (the list is really miles long, you very well know)
But you also face the expectation to be a good wife and modern woman, facing a list like:
bounce back, go to the gym
contribute financially
have a promising career or build your own business
have energy for your husband
don’t neglect your friends
be involved as a volunteer in the school …
(again feel free to add your additional million other things)
While you’re trying to be a good mom, a good wife…. it also comes with ALL the invisible labor that happens in your brain AND you have to keep in mind AND act on them.
the list of the lists
the meal planning - grocery list
the medical appointments, vaccinations
knowing what size the kids wear, updating the wardrobe
being in all the different Whatsapp groups for the kids/school
handling all emails and requests from school
thinking of everyone, planning
birthday parties, presents (also in school as your kids reach that age… // I was reminded to bring something small to all little classmates for my LO’s 3rd birthday… like WTF?)
.….
So why are we so tired?
Because of all this shit.
We try to be the good mom, the good wife while also not losing ourselves which feels super challenging sometimes.
We try to enjoy life, but we just feel sooooo tired.
Solution?
We were never meant to do all of these alone. We need support and that’s OK.
involve your partner, have the difficult conversation and share the load
ask for support (your partner, your mom, your friend…)
hire support (cleaning help, babysitter, dogsitter whatever you need)
AND!
Sometimes just let things explode, you have a finite capacity
Learn to say NO
Never ever neglect your own self care in this crazy mess
Otherwise mom-fatigue will be your companion and you’ll just wonder why the F can’t you enjoy life?!
Moreover I kindly remind you that mom-fatigue is also a sort of overstimulation of all of these above, which could easily result in momrage, frustration and anxiety. The problem is NOT you.
But the solution IS in your hands.
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These areas are all connected, the way you’ll be able to say NO and drop guilt, the more time you’ll be able to create for yourself. The more time you’ll have, the more energised you’ll feel. The more energised you feel, the more balanced , joyful and patient you’ll be.
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