How to live alongside your true priorities?

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We all have priorities, things that are truly important for us. If I would ask you to list 5 things which are the most important in life, you surely could come up with a list. Most probably there will be family, love, health or something similar on your list.

Now if I would ask you to prioritise 3 top things of them, there you may have some difficulties, but pick the 3 most essential things and create your top list.

Now focus only on these 3 priorities.

 Do you live respecting them?

Does your everyday life mirror these priorities?

Let’s say you listed family, health, freedom. Does your life, your choices, your behavior reflect those?

 Maybe your number one priority is family, but you are so overwhelmed by work/your business that you rarely spend real quality time with them. Think again.

Maybe your priority is health and you never find time for exercising. Think again.

Maybe you listed freedom as your priority and still you suffer in a job which doesn’t fulfill you or your dreams. Think again.

Think again why you have your priorities, and focus on these WHYs. Think where you don’t see your priorities reflected. Maybe it’s time for a change and shake things up… 

So here are the 3 steps to go through if you want to live alongside your true priorities. These can come especially handy if you feel often moody, exhausted, unmotivated.

  1.    Spend 10 mins with yourself in silence. Take a deep breath and ask yourself: what are my priorities in life? What are truly important for me, that I’m ready to act for\work for. It can be anything… (family, love, God, spirituality, financial freedom..) just be super honest with yourself. The first step is clarity. Know what’s truly important for you.

  2.    Now think about your life: think about milestones, big decisions you took, and finally about your life now and catch where you acted according to your priorities and where you clearly fall short on respecting your own priorities. Try to find the cause why.

  3.    If you find areas in your life where you don’t live alongside your priorities now, list all the excuses and thoughts you can come up with. Why don’t you respect your priorities? What’s holding you back?

For me, my top priorities are family, health, freedom. (Note that your priorities can change over time and according to changing life situations, and that’s ok). It’s funny though that I also have to experience some negative feelings first to show me that I’m off road again. My family is my priority but then a long time can go by and I realise I haven’t really been fully present when playing with my daughter. I also recognize that I’m not exercising enough or my meal plan is not that healthy again. Or I just realise that the red flag is already on, I’m way too exhausted it has been a long time that I truly relaxed and prioritised self-time. These are my reminders that I’m off the road and of course I feel exhausted, frustrated as I didn’t truly respect my priorities and autopilot mode is on.

We’re human beings, we make mistakes, we get caught up in life and that’s ok. There is nothing wrong with that if we can stop time to time and adjust the direction.

Make it as a habit that you ask yourself time to time how you are, how you live alongside your priorities?

Our priorities can change and that’s also ok, just be sure that you are clear with your actual priorities so you can make decisions and live by them. You will feel empowered, motivated and kind of in the flow when you respect your priorities. 

Focus on what’s truly important for you and say yes and no respecting these priorities.

Tell me what are your top 3 priorities? How could you put more focus on them?

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