New mom is born

When a baby is born, in that very moment the mother identity is born as well. You’ve been already a mom by carrying your baby inside you but the real change is happening as of that moment.

Your new identity is born.

Becoming a mom is beautiful but terryfying as well.

You’re now responsible for that little one as well, who can’t even tell you properly what she/he needs. You dont sleep, eat, relax or have a shower when you want, but when you can. And it’s hard, and very difficult to prepare for this. It’s demanding and energy consuming. It’s beautiful, but exhausting.

But it will work out, you got this.

The most important is that you ask for help and accept help. Not so long time ago there was the whole family or village taking care of the newborn, so you just don’t have to do it all alone. If you don’t have family around, then look for professional help or ask your friends.

Everyone is jumping around the baby- how is she/he? does she/he sleep well? eating well?

But what about you?
How are you?
What was the birth like, for you?
How do you feel?
What would you need?
Have you been able to sleep at least 3 hours in one go?
How could you relax?
How could you fill your own tanks now?

The best you can do is if you leave your baby in someone’s hand you trust (husband, mom, your friend..) so you can be relaxed and then do something which fills you up, fills back your energy tank. You can have a nap or meditate, go for a short walk or have a massage.

I’ve always been a big fan of Self-Care, but it proved to be real gold when I was at home with my newborn babygirl and I nearly went crazy in the whole process of identity change.

When I could go for a walk, had a massage or finally could have a relaxing facial.. those moments were my saviors. My heaven.  Afterwards I went home more relaxed, balanced, energized... I couldn’t wait to hug my little monkey. What if I wouldn’t have gone anywhere? I don’t know..I don’t know where we would be now.

Just know, that it’s totally ok if you feel overwhelmed and you not only see the unicorns. It’s totally normal.

Happy child can be raised only by a happy mom. And this is true already now. Your baby needs You, your baby needs a happy mom.

Enjoy every moment with your cutie but let yourself relax time to time without your baby so you can fill your energy tanks and can get back to her/him  more balanced.

Since you’re a Mom, it’s even more important to prioritize Self-Care. For everone’s sake. 😊