How to deal with others opinion-v2

- You don’t need to prove anything

Critisism feel bad. Judgments, troll comments feel bad. We feel attacked and our normal reaction is hide or fight back. There is nothing wrong with that, this is the automatic human reaction

We feel even worse if we are judged by our beloved ones, when they don’t support us, when they don’t agree because of the additional expectation that they should undertsand, they should support.

The truth is that we are all judging, it is a normal job of our human brain. You judge, I also judge. The question is what do you do with it?

You can learn how to release your judgemental thoughts and you can also learn how to deal with others’.

•  Step number one: accepting that you will be judged. It will happen. You can’t please everyone, that’s impossible, so there will be some who will critisize you.

• Step number two: as you know that’s a normal human reaction you decide ahead of time that your own opinion is more important and you have your own back

•  Step number three: You can listen to others opinion, but never let them overrule yours. Be confident enough that you know what you need.

• Step number four: Expect that you will feel negative feelings about the judgement, go into the feeling and experience how strong you are. Feelings can’t truly hurt you. You are coming our stronger on the other side.

So what happens when we are judged, especially by our loved ones?

We start to defend our decision.

We prove ourselves.

We prove our capability of decision, of being a good mom, of making a certain choice.

But at the end... it’s just a waste of a lot of energy. We feel, that we need to defend our dreams, we need to defend our decisions, however it’s coming from that desire that others should accept us and support our dreams.

If we accept, that it’s ok if they don’t, it’s ok if we are judged... we spare a lot of energy.

Be confident that you know what’s the best for you.

You are the one who gets that desire from God/the Universe.

You are the one who is building that dream (first in your mind).

You don’t need others’ approval, you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone.

Let’s go for your dreams and desires and have your own back, mama!