Self-Care Part V/2 - When Self-Care is not so comfortable

Learn to manage your mind

Be gentle to yourself

Self-Care is not only bubble bath but also the uncomfortable things we do for our best-self, for our future-self. It can be setting bounderies, saying no, exercising, healthy diets and mindset-management. Let’s end this mini-series with mindset-management.

Do you create the space for yourself to manage your mind?

The best way of Self-Care is Self-love. When you truly accept and love yourself the way you are. Why is it relevant here?

If you manage your mind it means you are able to watch your thoughts, examine them and identify how you are feeling. It can happen that you won’t like your thoughts or you get frustrated by how you suck at mindset management in the beginning – just be gentle to yourself and love yourself anyway.

We have nearly 70.000 thoughts a day, it’s impossible to examine all of them, but it isn’t the goal either.

The goal is to be able to recognize how we are feeling and catch the thoughts behind that. It’s not always comfortable and requires some space.

I can’t think of a better way of Self-Care than loving myself no matter what, and chosing consciously my thoughts if I notice that I would generate unnecessary negative feelings for myself. And this can be hard.

I admit when I first met this self-coaching model I was amazed and I could suddenly create better feelings just by changing my thoughts. But this fired up state faded away when life happened, tiredness and overwhelm came... I didn’t question the model, I questioned my ability to actually use that in my every day’s life. When I could finally let go the strong control to change my thoughts and sometimes just accepted how I felt no matter how uncomfortable that feeling was, it was a game changer.

Watch your thoughts, question them, they are not facts. If you feel that the generated feeling is valid in a certain situation, just accept it, go deep, feel it. If you feel, that’s not valid and you would feel you much better to think another thought, you’ll immediately notice that the pressure eases on your chest, then just go and change the thought.

This way of Self-Care requires the below 3 things:

·        Recognize what you are feeling and catch the thoughts behind it

·        If you decide that the feeling is valid – go deep into that even if it’s uncomfortable and know that this is just a feeling and will go away

·        Practice Self-Love: You are capable of feeling anything and if you don’t master mindset-management yet, don’t beat yourself up just try again and again...

I hope I could inspire you to watch out for these, set your bounderies and watch your own thoughts.

Look out for your own desires, dreams, take care of yourself.

There is only one of YOU on this Earth, you deserve your best Self-Care 😉

XO