What to do instead of New Year’s Resolutions

Want to have true change in 2025? Then read till the very end.

I’ve heard from many moms already that they think "New Year’s Resolution is BS and anyway… we’re moms the best goal we can set is that we all survive…” -> in several different versions, but that’s the main common belief.

Agree or disagree?

👉 I see now many videos and posts about NEW YEAR NEW ME… and let’s jump into 2025… and plan out Your Year and create SUCCESS…

👉 but I also see just as many from the other end, people, who don’t want to do anything… not even setting any goals… just easing into the new year and don’t even want to hear about any kind of transformation or resolutions…

I believe the TRUTH is in the golden middle, and I hope it will also motivate YOU to harness this New Year’s energy shift.

Let’s see first why resolutions don’t work and fail pretty quickly.

I now present you these 2 main reasons (there are some more)

1. If you don’t work on your beliefs first your results can’t be different - you’ll create the same things over and over again

2. You shoot for the stars instead of setting a proper goal which is realistic AND motivating

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you wanna lose weight and can’t wait to get back in shape. If you have the resolution, that “2025 will be my year and I’ll work out every day and I’ll cut out carbs completely…”…while you believe losing weight is hard, you’re always procrastinating and as mom you just never have time for yourself… This resolution will fail pretty quickly. Not because there is anything wrong with you, not because you can’t lose weight…

but because you set irrealistic expectations while believing in hindering thoughts.

👉So then what… what to do instead of New Year’s Resolutions?

Set goals properly WHILE believing in the possibility of that change.

Anything you want in 2025 is a CHANGE: change in your feelings, in your finances, in your appareance, in y0ur relationship, in your career, in your everyday life…

You can’t have that transformation while you believe in the contrary. Your unconscious will sabotage you.

👉 What if you don’t even know what kind of a goals you have?

Let me break it to You. YOU DO.

You just haven’t used those muscles and now the easiest answer for your brain is “I don’t know”. But you do. Start dreaming, journal about it… then when you FEEL the connection to a dream (goal) then make it more realistic, what could be possible for you…

THE GOLDEN MIDDLE I want to invite you to… is that sweet spot when you set goals from true desire, not from pressure, not from scarcity, not from expectations….

You don’t have to jump anywhere right now but let the New Year’s energies inspire you.

1. Start dreaming

2. Then pick a goal which FEELS amazing… (there is no “right” or “big enough”goal)

3. Write that down and watch your brain coming up with excuses

4. Become aware what you believe about that goal, what you believe about yourself

5. Try to make the goal measurable so it’s realistic but also feels motivating

Let me give you an example here:

You want to feel less tired, want to have more recharging time for yourself. Sounds fun right? But then your brain starts telling you why this never happened before and why you can’t trust anyone with your baby (your brain tries to talk you down from ANY kind of change.. that’s what brains do… it’s OK) without presenting you any creative solutions. The way to do this right, is to pick the goal itself and then …

1. Make the goal realistic - having 10 mins every day or 2 hours per week… (only you know what’s realistic but target a bit more rather than less)

2. Ask your brain to come up with the solution with positive questions: “How could I have 10 mins a day?” “How could I solve the babysitting"?”

3. Get clear about what your beliefs are around REST, TIME, RECHARGE

4. FEEL into that goal as if it’s already the norm… feel the ease of having that time to yourself (when you practice the desired feeling, your brain is more willing to cooperate on the journey towards that goal), normalize taking the time for yourself

I stop here now, but the next steps would be to actually map out what you want to do with your time, how to deal with potential momguilt and how to actually create the HABIT of having that recharging time.

You see? No need for crazy, gigantic goals… no need for pressure or any kind of overwhelm… but setting goals and allowing yourself to desire any kind of transformation IS important.

Just because you’re a mom, it doesn’t mean you can’t set goals and all your goals must be doomed.

Set goals properly, which motivates YOU and is still realistic in your life situation. But don’t forget to watch out for the BELIEFS and make sure your unconscious is also on board.

I can’t wait to help you with this. I’m planning some juicy goal setting- unconscious rewiring workshop for end of January.

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I’m a mom. I don’t jump anywhere (apart from in the gym) so early in January. I ease into the year after recovering from the school holiday. Then I let my desires guide me and end of January sounds pretty good already 😉🤩