The truth about why you don’t have time
How often do you think about that you „don’t have time”? How many times a day? I bet a lot and several times. How do you feel when you think that?
Most probably stressed, frustrated.
So let’s start here, on mindset level, then we’ll jump deep into that truth.
So you are there, thinking that you just don’t have enough time, feeling stressed. What are you doing when you are fixated on not having time, feeling stressed?
Either you try to avoid feeling those negative feelings and eat a doughnut, drink a glass of wine or ...
you are reacting to it:
you are irritated with your family,
you give up on trying doing things you wanted,
you blame your lack of support, your partner, your job, your time-management... and prove yourself true about not having time.
Both ways you are creating the same result = you ensure you don’t create time for yourself.
Why? Because your brain is fixated on the thought „I don’t have enough time”. What you are focusing on, that’s what you gonna create.
So next time, when you catch those sneaky thoughts about not having time – just notice them, and change them to „I find time for things that matter” or „I create my time” „Time is for me not against me”
But why -on the first place- have moms this „I don’t have time” thought so deeply rooted in their belief?
Because it can be true.
But. Just because something IS true, it doesn’t mean thinking about it is useful for you.
So let’s talk about THE truth.
Why do you think you don’t have time?
The first explanation is coming from the brain’s elemental motivation – to save energy. When you feel overloaded and don’t even no where to start you most probably will do less or nothing because you are paralysed. So keeping you confused and paralysed is a pretty convenient state for your brain because it ensures you don’t do complex, hard things which would take a lot of energy...
Second... you most probably think you don’t have time, because you DON’T PRIORITISE.
So when you wanna be there 100% for your family, for your partner, for your job, do the household stuff, workout, do pelvic floor exercises, nurture friendships, do the shopping, cook fresh meal, go to playdates, have some time for yourself... it quickly becomes TOO MUCH and impossible.
So you have the default thought- I just don’t have time.
But what if... it’s not your fault?
What if the problem comes from today’s time pressure- NOW and consumer society- EVERYTHING.
When you want EVERYTHING and you want it NOW, prioritisation is impossible.
You are afraid of saying NO, because you don’t wanna miss out, you don’t wanna fall short.
You see the perfect lives of insta moms, beautiful photos of energetic moms with amazing houses, extravagant holidays, home-made vegan cupcakes...and you think you failed, you can’t do it all. You don’t have the time, the support...
The truth about your time is that you can spend it anyway you want.
Everyone has the same 24hrs. You just need to be very intentional about how you are spending it. Not pressuring yourself into doing everything at once, not pressuring yourself according to what a „goodmom” should do, but very intentionally structuring your days so your priorities are reflected in your calendar.
I believe YOU can have it all. But not all at once. Not everything now.
There is no recipe for all of us, you need to find your way, your perfect schedule.
It can look like 5 minutes workout in the mornings, or 10 minutes meditation before bed-time. It can look like more family time one week, and more work the other.
It can look like „nothing special just a few minutes”, but with those intentional periods you are actually progressing.
There is no recipe.
You find it out on the way. Just direct your mind from „I don’t have time” to „I create time for what I want” and don’t be afraid of saying no so you can schedule your calendar as per your true priorities.